Tonight (writing this at 2:00 am, have to work early tomorrow) had lots of lessons. However, there was one big lesson that I really want to examine. Let’s look at it.

Danish Girl

We’re about six or eight sets deep at Freehold. I’m talking to a mildly attractive German woman but she’s not into me. Very unresponsive. I look to my left, see a girl who I caught checking me out 45 minutes ago, open her. She’s into me, we’re vibing, I get the feeling I could make out right here but something stops me. Is it intuition telling me to wait for a better moment, or am I being a bitch? It’s hard for me to say. My gut reaction is that I’m waiting for a better moment, but I could be being a bitch. There were two times this night where I was within an inch of a girl’s lips but didn’t go for it. In the future what I’d like to do here is just go for it. If I’m an inch away I want to just blast in for the kiss. Even if I blow some sets, so be it. I’m tired of not knowing whether my intuition is helping me or if I’m just bitching out.

Anyways, I’m talking to this cute Danish girl, I have my arm around her and I’m not going for the makeout. Then her friend comes and starts getting my attention. So I put my arm around her too. Now I’m standing with an arm around each woman and they’re both vying for my attention. If feels cool. If they left that instant I would still be happy because I’m awesome and kick ass, but it’s still nice to have two cute girls hanging onto me. In the end the friend ends up winning my attention and I make out with her instead of the girl that I opened. Here’s where the lesson comes. Or rather, the question that will hopefully give me insight.

Talking to my girl, we’ve already made out, I can feel the connection losing momentum. Have to move her but she won’t leave the friend. So fuck it, get the friend on the train and move the two girls and my wingman to another part of the club. I propose the idea of us all going for pizza. I think my girl is down, but other friend is not (later my wingman will tell me that he tried to kiss her several times but it never happened). So at this point I just run out of fucking ideas. My girl won’t leave her friend. Friend won’t go for pizza. Everything is growing stale. We’re all just sort of kicking our toes wondering what to do, it’s awkward. The girls go to the bathroom, we exit stage left and go check out another place in Williamsburg.

So what the fuck could I have done to make something happen? Maybe not a whole lot here because the logistics were awful. Danish friend was sleeping on my girl’s couch so they simply will not separate. But let’s say that wasn’t the case, how could I have done it better? Maybe that comes down to my wing doing a better job managing his girl so that I can pull mine. Or better yet, instead of having to depend on someone else, I take responsibility. When I proposed the pizza idea I did it half-assed, didn’t put enthusiasm into it. What I should have done is talked it up and made it sound like the best thing ever. Then I could have pulled everyone to the pizza place, then to my house a block away, then who knows.

At any rate, the idea of hyping everyone up for pizza (or wherever) sounds good. I want to be able to make something happen no matter what. I never want to have to depend on something or someone else (like having a more experienced wing).

The Two Divorcees

Earlier in the night I opened an attractive chick and we started joking about getting married and divorced. After five minutes she was hanging off my arm. Then her friend came in, and I got her hanging off my arm too. So I had both girls under my arms. As cool as this was, it was actually tiring to keep both girls engaged and there. I was doing an excellent job, as good as I’ve ever done, but it was still a struggle. As I get better I’ll definitely be able to handle this same situation and only exert 1/10th of the energy I put in.

It was a cool set though because it lasted for about 6 or 7 minutes, I occupied two girls and I always had something to say. Mainly about who was keeping the house and who would get the kids. In a similar situation in the future I would relax a bit more, exert myself a bit less, and just see what happens. I burned myself out putting on a song and dance act which got me a few minutes of attention but no concrete results.

Kuwait Girl

Walking, make eye contact with a girl. Laser eyes with each other. I hold out my hand, she gives me her hand and I pull myself in. I put my knee between her thighs and we start dancing. I come in close and am one inch from her lips. At this point there has been zero words exchanged between us, just mutual attraction. But man, I chicken out with the makeout. I chicken out, start talking, that strong coal of attraction gets doused in water. Even though we’re talking to each other and she’s still into me, it’s just not exciting to me. I’m pissed that I blew this moment that could have been amazing. As she tries to introduce me to her friend I just walk away. Dick move, whatever. I was pissed at myself for not going for it. She was cute too, great body.

Gabby

Talk to a girl for ten minutes, she’s really into me. Big eyes, asking me questions, qualifying herself. After ten minutes though I’m ready to find someone else. I tell Gabby about my favorite spot in Williamsburg, describe it, then ask her if she wants to go there with me. She agrees, I get her number. Text her my name a few minutes later, she never responds. Ok, so how could I have made that more solid? I could have been a bit more physical and led. I didn’t lead. That type of girl, that situation, she wasn’t leaving her friend. Who was her sister, not her friend. It’s obvious they won’t isolate. But I could have led the group somewhere else. What would help is if before leading I picture the spot I want to go, find some reason it’s awesome, then get everyone moving there.

Again though, difficult situation where the girl will be very unlikely to leave the friend (sister in this case). Short of having a more experienced wingman, I’ll have to give some good thought to as how I’ll make this happen. True, I can pull everyone for pizza, but at some point there must be isolation. How can I make it happen?

3 Second Girl

Me and wingman are walking through a very crowded area. I come up on a girl, grab her hand, spin her. Then I just let her go and keep walking. What I could have done is just held the hand and started pulling her, saying “2 seconds, 2 seconds. This way, fun shit!”. Worth a shot, nothing to lose.

Overall an excellent night. I’m thrilled with how it went. Had some really good potential there that I should be able to maximize in the coming months as I gain more experience. Regardless, still had a blast. Made out with a Danish girl, twice had a woman under each arm, and came the closest to a no-talking makeout that I’ve ever had in my life. Next time I take it all the way, I don’t chicken out at the last second.

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