If you’re like me, when you’re in the club your brain loves to make horrible suggestions..
You’re not good enough for her.
What you’re saying is boring and she doesn’t care.
You’re tired, just go home.
You’re not going to pull her, why even try.
You’re not awesome, don’t even bother.
The problem with this horrendous bullshit is that it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you feed into these thoughts they grow and become reality. Then you’re done. Maybe you ruin that set, maybe you ruin the night. You slip into a downwards spiral and it’s awfully tough to climb back out.
This doesn’t have to happen. If you can annihilate these thoughts early you can keep your awesome vibe going. It’s pretty easy to do. As soon as you notice the first hint of a negative thought weaseling in, cut it! Say no, fuck that. I’m awesome, girls love. My night is going great, I’m fucking amazing.
And then you make that your reality. Let that simmer and grow into something, instead of watering the shitty thoughts. Reality is subjective, there really isn’t some “truth” that is valid. You can shape the moment into whatever the fuck you want it to be, so shape it into something beautiful.