Last Minute Resistance is rarely a problem for me. In fact I can only remember one time (this night in Biergarten) in the last year where I got real LMR and we didn’t have sex. So I thought I’d share a few thoughts for the benefit of all.
*If I invite a girl back to my place, 97% of the time there is already an established sexual vibe. I hardly ever / never use “tricks” to get a girl back to my place. For instance I think some guys get girls over under false pretenses and then feel angry when she doesn’t want to have sex. If you’re with a girl and the conversation is light and there’s no sexual chemistry, maybe she will come back to your place for a drink but she probably isn’t thinking “we’re going to have sex.” Of course once she’s back then it’s easier to switch it to a sexual vibe. However, the whole situation is not as cut and dry as when the sexual vibe is established at the bar.
*I’m cognizant of how the girl is feeling once she gets to my place. More often than not she’s ready to hook up immediately. Other girls are more reserved. For instance, the girl I pulled last Friday. We got back to my room and I closed the door. I put my hands on her shoulders, looked into her eyes and moved in for the kiss. She just stood there looking uncertain, she didn’t reciprocate. Warning signs! She wasn’t feeling comfortable.
I backed the hell off, asked her if she wanted wine, opened up my laptop and put on Spotify. We sat there talking about music in a platonic manner, we weren’t even holding hands. After 15 minutes I went to the bathroom, came back and sat down close to her. Looked in her eyes, went for the kiss and three minutes later we were fucking. If I had tried to hook up with her immediately I think there would have been massive LMR. However, because I recognized how she was feeling and gave her space, I let her feel comfortable to the point where sex was no big deal.
*Recognize that once in a while a girl may not let you take her pants off because she has her period. If a girl stops me from taking off her pants (or underwear) two or three times, but is otherwise into it, I’ll ask if she’s on her period.
*Even though I’m writing an article about LMR it’s not a concept that is part of my daily life. I would never say to a friend,
“Yeah, I got a lot of LMR and then we hooked up!”
Hell no. Some girls will occasionally make sex harder and make you take your time. That doesn’t mean you have to make a big deal out of it. Two steps forward, one step back. Two steps forward, one step back. If you reach a point where she absolutely won’t let you take any more steps forward then I usually just stop. This happened with a French girl I pulled a few months ago. Simply would not let me take her pants off. Eventually I got fed up with it, completely backed off and ignored her. Went to the bathroom and when I came back she was waiting for me in her underwear. We hooked up moments later. If I had kept mindlessly pushing forward she probably would have left. But I let her know that I wasn’t going to play her stupid game, withdrew all attention and that was all it took.
*Be hyper aware of how the girl is feeling, calibrate accordingly
*Establish the sexual vibe at the bar
*Once in a while LMR may really just be a sign she’s on her period
*If you reach a point where you cannot go any further, stop and totally back off. Take away the validation and see what happens